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The First 90 Days of Dating Someone from Another Country
What Happens After the First Introduction?
Meeting someone special is exciting. There’s the anticipation of the first conversation, the nervous energy of the first date, and the possibility that this person could become an important part of your life. But when you’re dating someone from another country, that excitement comes with a unique set of questions.
What happens after that first introduction? How do you build a meaningful connection when you don’t live in the same city, or even the same country? How often should you communicate? When should you see each other again? And how do you know whether the relationship has real potential?
At Medellín MatchMaker, we believe the first introduction is only the beginning. The first 90 days can be an important period for discovering whether an initial connection has the foundation to grow into something lasting.
The First 30 Days: Getting to Know Each Other Beyond the First Impression
The first few weeks are about curiosity, discovery, and enjoying the process of getting to know someone new.
Perhaps you’ve traveled to Medellín and met a Colombian woman through a personalized introduction. You enjoyed dinner, had great conversations, and felt a connection. Now you’re back home, wondering what comes next.
This is where communication becomes especially important.
Unlike traditional dating, where two people might meet for coffee or dinner several times a week, international dating requires more intention. Phone calls, video conversations, and messages become opportunities to continue discovering each other’s personalities, values, interests, and daily lives.
But communication shouldn’t feel like an obligation or a scheduled business meeting. It should be something both people look forward to.
A simple message asking about her day, sharing something interesting that happened at work, or sending a photograph from your weekend can help create a sense of connection despite the distance.
It’s also important to remember that you’re still getting to know each other. Avoid placing unnecessary pressure on the relationship or making promises before you’ve had time to understand one another.
The goal of the first 30 days isn’t to decide your entire future together. It’s to discover whether you genuinely enjoy getting to know each other.
Days 30–60: Moving Beyond Chemistry
By the second month, the initial excitement may begin developing into something more meaningful.
You’ve probably learned about each other’s careers, families, interests, and daily routines. Now it’s time to explore the subjects that reveal whether your lifestyles and expectations could realistically align.
What does a serious relationship mean to each of you? How important is family? What are your long-term goals? Would either of you consider relocating someday?
These conversations don’t need to happen all at once, and they certainly shouldn’t feel like an interview. They can develop naturally as your connection grows.
Cultural differences also become more noticeable during this stage. Dating someone from Colombia may introduce you to different family traditions, communication styles, social customs, and perspectives on relationships.
Rather than assuming your way of doing things is the right way, approach those differences with genuine curiosity.
Language can also play a role. Even when both people communicate well in English or Spanish, expressions, humor, and emotional nuances don’t always translate perfectly.
Patience, openness, and a willingness to ask questions can prevent small misunderstandings from becoming larger problems.
This is also a good time to consider planning another visit.
While technology makes international relationships possible, spending time together in person remains essential. A second visit allows you to experience each other beyond the excitement of a first date.
Perhaps you explore Medellín together, visit a nearby town, enjoy a casual lunch, or spend time discovering activities you both enjoy.
These shared experiences reveal aspects of compatibility that messages and video calls simply cannot.
Days 60–90: Discovering Whether There’s a Future
By the third month, you may have a clearer understanding of the connection you’re building.
You know more about how the other person communicates, how they respond to challenges, and whether their actions reflect their words.
This is when consistency becomes particularly important.
Does communication feel mutual? Are both people making an effort? Do you enjoy each other’s company beyond romantic moments? Can you discuss differences respectfully?
A promising international relationship shouldn’t depend entirely on one person making every call, planning every trip, or carrying every conversation.
Both individuals should demonstrate interest in continuing to build the connection.
If things are progressing well, you may begin discussing what the next several months could look like.
That might include planning future visits, introducing each other to friends or family, or exploring how your lives could eventually fit together.
There is no need to make immediate decisions about marriage, relocation, or major life changes. However, it’s important to understand whether you’re moving in a similar direction.
And if you discover that your expectations are fundamentally different, recognizing that early can be valuable for both people.
Remember: Every Relationship Has Its Own Timeline
Ninety days is not a deadline for falling in love, making a commitment, or deciding whether someone is your future spouse.
Some connections develop quickly. Others need more time, especially when travel schedules, professional responsibilities, and family commitments are involved.
What matters is not how fast the relationship progresses, but whether it develops with honesty, mutual effort, respect, and genuine interest.
International dating can require additional planning, but it also offers opportunities to discover another culture, experience new places, and build a relationship with someone whose background may be very different from your own.
Sometimes those differences become part of what makes the connection so meaningful.
How Medellín MatchMaker Helps You Begin
At Medellín MatchMaker, we understand that meeting someone from another country involves more than simply arranging a first date.
We are a boutique professional matchmaking and introduction service based in Medellín, Colombia, connecting relationship-minded international men with carefully selected Colombian women who are genuinely interested in meaningful relationships.
Our personalized approach focuses on understanding our clients’ personalities, lifestyles, values, and relationship goals before creating curated introductions.
We believe that successful matchmaking isn’t about meeting as many people as possible. It’s about creating opportunities for genuine connections and allowing two people to discover what they might build together.
The first introduction may open the door, but what happens afterward is where the real relationship begins.
Your next meaningful connection could start with one conversation in Medellín.
Interested in discovering a more personal approach to international dating? We’d love to hear from you.
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